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September 15, 2013


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Oh, Jennifer. I am so sorry - I know how much this kind of thing sucks, and hurts, and the second guessing. I also know how wonderful a caring facility - and hospice - can be, and how much they can make a difference not only for a parent but also for you. I've been thinking about you all week, and while I'm glad to hear from you, I can only imagine how wretched you must feel. If there's anything at all I can do, even just listen while you talk, please let me know.

Sarah J

I wish there was something wise I could say, other than that you're a good daughter, fighting for what your mom needs. I wish you didn't have to have this fight.


I know there aren't words, so instead I'll just send hugs and strength and my best hankie. Please take care of yourself as well.

Stephanie S.

I am sorry. It's so hard when they're gone but not gone.


I'm so sorry - what a terribly hard thing to go through. Your resemblance to your Mom shines through in those photos; I hope (in time, at least) that you are able to remember her as the great Mom she obviously was rather than the shell she is now.


Nothing I can possibly say would be of any help, so I send hugs and love and lots of coping vibes.


There aren't good words that can help, so just know that you are surrounded by love as you make your way through this part of the journey with your mom.

Cari Taylor

Jennifer, I am so very, very sorry you're going through this. My thoughts and love go out to you and Christopher, the girls, and John. Don't hesitate to ask if there is anything we can do to help. Words seem so feeble to offer but know that behind them is all the support in the world.

Karen Jacot

I am so sorry you have to go through this.


I can't begin to imagine, all of it. ((Hugs)). I'm so sorry. Any decisions that you've made or will make, I know are made with so much love, compassion and care for your mom.

Lauren Supplee

Jennifer, like so many good friends who have already commented, nothing I can say or do will make it better. But you are in my thoughts and I wish I could be there to make you food or hugs or whatever the moment needs.


I'm so sorry. There is no right answers, but I hope you know you are doing an amazing job of navigating a very tough situation.


I'm so sorry you're dealing with this situation, it sounds so very very difficult and painful. Thinking of you.


I have no magic words, only the conviction you have done everything you could to help your mom through this journey. I'm so very sad for you. Be good to yourself (that means sleep and wine and no beating yourself up). You are so loved by so many; I hope that brings you comfort.


I'm so sorry. I hope somehow your mom knows just how much she is loved.


I'm sorry. I've been there in a different way and it sucks. Sending *hugs* your way.


thanks for sharing this experience here. I don't know that i'd have the chance to know otherwise and i'm grateful that you shared what you are going through. beaming strength and positive memory thoughts your way.


Having just watch my grandfather decline and then pass, I can only imagine you are going through a hyper intense version of that. I wish you strength, and patience and peace of knowing you are doing your best. Love and hugs....Pam


Jennifer, I'm so sorry to hear this. Having been through something similar in 2010 with my friend, I know how heartbreaking, exhausting, terrifying, sad, and awful this is. My condolences to your family, and remember this: you're doing the best you can, and it's better than most. Your mom knew this when you were selected to be her proxy.


As many have said, there aren't words that could comfort you at this difficult time. Sending hugs and prayers to you and your family.

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